Ejajul & Mariam's Wedding in London, UK
When a wedding is in the land of Kings and Queens, it has to be royal. A breakfast date became special when Ejajul proposed Mariam with a cushion cut diamond!
How we met:
Ejajul and I (bride) met through a mutual friend. It all sprouted with a friendship where I was his confidante and he was my best friend which then blossomed into love and cloying affection. Imagine spending the rest of your life with your best friend. Here I am, living the dream.
My friends always thought that he was extremely lucky to have me, but little did they know that it was the other way round. It was a bank holiday in March on the 28th and he took me to the shard for breakfast. Amidst the bites of scrumptious breakfast he popped out the question to me with a cushion cut diamond to seal the deal. And just like that, I forever became Mrs. Islam.
Narrated from my uncle “I have never met a bride who is so organized and knows exactly what she wants and who has planned everything by herself” – I did not leave anything for the last moment and started to plan everything early because I knew that piling up things for the last moment stresses you and Hey! Who wants dark circles in her wedding?
There were times where I found it extremely stressful but eh that’s expectable and worth it. I relentlessly carried on making my wedding a grand event. In terms of my outfits, I always knew I wanted to be a Sabyasachi bride as “I don’t want to wear Sabyasachi Lehnga; Said No bride ever”. In terms of décor, I was specific and always knew what I wanted.
My one solace was browsing through all the wedding websites and checking out bridal collections by virtually all the designers. The wedding websites were blessing in disguise. I took inspiration from all the wedding pictures and ideas out there, from American wedding planners to Indians.
I finally hired a wedding planner – Dahlia Events, who helped me bring my fairytale to life. I worked closely with her day and night to create something beautiful. From the visits to flowers to deciding what chairs to go for, everything was executed the way it was planned.
Feelings on the Big Day:
I think a bride would be lying if she says she is not nervous. So much is going on in your mind and you get these mixed feelings, feelings that you’ll soon be Miss to Mrs., that it is your last day in your parents’ house, feeling that you will never get to sleep in your own bed again! It’s a rollercoaster of emotions. But once the make-up was done and the outfit was on I was ecstatic to see the decor and to see my husband to be. I was excited to be get married and live my dream.
The ending which we call “Bidaai” was one of the worst feelings I have ever experienced. Being a mollycoddle child of my parents, it made my heart sink to leave them and I never knew I would cry in the arms of strangers, people who would randomly come to hug me, people that I probably have never met.
The big challenge is finding the perfect outfit and when you live in the UK, it’s a pretty disconcerting feeling knowing that you’re getting married and you can’t have wide access to your favorite designers. In 2016, I attended the London wedding show in the Dorchester hotel where Sabyasachi showcased his spectacular collection. From that time I was sure that I had to go an extra mile (actually I went a long mile) to get my dream wedding outfits. Not only did I get the chance to meet him, he also gave me advice on what would look good on me. For a second, I felt like I was in an episode of Band Baajaa Bride show! I then decided to take a trip to Mumbai. Come on, I was not going to just settle for anything less.
We did not really have any prior experience of shopping in Mumbai but with my length of research over the last few years and my perfectionist side creeping inside of me, I made a list of all the designers that I wanted to visit, all the shops that I wanted to go to. I made contacts to all the Sabyasachi stores; Mumbai, Delhi, Calcutta and everywhere and then finally booked appointments with the assistant in the Delhi and Mumbai store.
I had to go to India twice, one for the ordering and the second for the fitting. I guess the two trips to India within a space of 3 months was worth it. I can’t complain about my experience of shopping. It could not have gone any better especially as I found my dream outfit.
I am a typical Asian bride and a sucker for Sabyasachi! I always had a dream of wearing a beautiful Sabyasachi creation on my big day so I couldn’t resist when I saw the Victoria lengha in the Delhi store!
Schedule of events and outfits worn on each function:
- Rohit Bahl on the Nikkah day
- Sabyasachi on the Mehendi day
- Sabyasachi on the wedding day
The Mehendi ceremony was an extravagant soiree with close kith and kin. We wanted a floral theme and we ended up going for that, from the little details to the floral backdrop, it was everything that I wanted.
For my W-day, I always eyed for something sophisticated and elegant with the zinc of glamour. I originally wanted big centre pieces with all shades of nude flowers but I then decided to go for bolder colors and chic look and as the evening progressed, compliments flew all day.
I am more of a city girl who prefers mansion to castle. So we decided for the Grand Connaught in Central London. I loved the palatial surroundings of the arched ceilings, beautiful wood paneling and the big crystal chandeliers.
Performers and Performances:
Being a Muslim wedding, and that too of a mixed one, the groom being of Bangladeshi origin and I am Mauritian, it was definitely tricky. We decided to only have a DJ for the main event. We played subtle instruments and the classic Bollywood songs. Nothing too upbeat! We wanted guests to be able to hear themselves whilst talking to one another.
For the Mehendi, it was a whole different story. Everyone owned the dance floor amidst the chocolate fountain and hookah stall.
Few words on the photographer, videographer, hair/make-up artist, bartenders and DJ:
A Perfect Wedding team is a very pivotal part of any wedding that helps you shape your dream into reality. I was blessed enough to have such a recognized and upbeat team who looked into all the minute details and cater everything according to our needs. It could not have been any better without them.
Advice for to-be-weds:
This special day is just about you and your partner and happily after. It is just the beginning of something amazing. Some of the best moments in your wedding will most certainly be the ones that were not planned – like a fabulous photograph of me and my husband walking the streets of London in our outfits, with hundreds of people surrounding us, clapping, cheering and taking pictures. Sure, it was a little daunting but it worked and we made it fun!
So embrace the unexpected, and don’t let something that does not go according to the plan ruin the big picture. The day flies by in the blink of an eye; all the planning, stress, excitement and time put in over the year comes and goes in a flash. So enjoy every single moment, enjoy the little stress, enjoy the disagreement, enjoy the unattainable because when it all comes to the end and when it is all over, you will miss it and you will want to do it all over again.
Photographer: Lookatme photography, London
Videographer: Memoirz, London
Make-up Artist: Soniaxfyza
Henna Artist: Tasneem henna artist
Wedding Planner: Dahlia events
Caterer: Wishes Caterers
DJ: Musical Movements
Photo Courtesy: Lookatme photography, London
Submitted by: Manpreet Kaur
She is realistic, rebellious and robust. Not manacled by a particular genre of writing, her interest is in varied domains like Lifestyle, Marriage, Global issues, sagas and styling. Hence, defying the proverb ”Jack of all but King of none”. You can check out her blog, email her, or get in touch through Facebook and Instagram.